Who is in your inner circle? ⭕️

Hey Sis,

As I mentioned in the previous newsletter, I will be hosting a worship and prayer night on the 1^st December in Northampton. Sis, I would love for you to make it. It is going to be an awesome time in God’s Presence. Here is the flyer link to download for you to share across your social platforms please and bring a friend too. Follow us on instagram for more information. Please pray towards the event.

Today, I want to focus on friendships as adults as it can seem so long in that we must schedule meet ups, because we are scattered all over. Sometimes I feel guilty that I am not doing enough as a friend and I place certain expectations on myself that my friends have not placed on me. I think having clear expectations in a friendship and understanding each other’s boundaries is important. I am the type of person that can become your friend within 5 minutes of talking to you, if I like you and I'm aligned to you then I have got you. However, I know I can't have that close of a relationship with everyone, so knowing and understanding who my core people are is important. That way I manage expectations and give parts of myself to the right people. Having the right friends is crucial to the assignment God has upon your life because they will be the ones supporting you, praying for you, rallying up behind you. You don’t want someone that will belittle, gaslight or manipulate you.  

We all know the story of Moses, the circumstances which he was born, how he was raised and how he fled Egypt, now when God wanted to use him to save the people of Israel from slavery with the Egyptians, he wasn't exactly all happy about it even after God had given him clear instructions (Exodus 4). He started mentioning his shortcomings and how he can't speak, but God told him he will be with him and instruct him, yet Moses was still hesitant. So, God said Aaron can speak for him, but Moses had to tell Aaron God's plans and ask him to speak for him. God knows our shortcomings but still wants to use us anyway, we hear this phrase a lot "God doesn't call the qualified, he qualifies the called' the ones that answer. However, this is not what the focus of this today, it is more about the people in our lives and the reason they are there. He knows what you can or can't do, that's why he places people in our lives so that we are not living out a vision by ourselves. It is important to know whom to tell the vision to because it is not everyone that will understand or help you with it. God told Moses to tell Aaron and he was going to be with the two of them. Who do you open to when God tells you things, is it someone you can trust, who will help you understand the vision God has given you or help you execute it in whatever capacity they can, are they the strength to your weakness because that's what Aaron was to Moses. Teamwork makes the dream work. Who is in your team?? Also, God spoke to Aaron to go meet Moses but never shared with him what he was going to do, but Aaron obeyed anyway. Aaron just thought he was meeting his brother, not knowing both have a purpose to fulfil together. Everyone loves the story of the friendship between David and Jonathan, but this is another relationship that is also worth looking into. Aaron was his brother's keeper (being actual brothers was just bonus) 

My question now is who is in your corner? The people you relate with can either break or make you. Have you considered looking around to see who is backing you. This is also why you need to build a Godly community. It is not just to help carry a vision God has given us but in our daily lives. Aaron wasn’t just Moses' mouthpiece but a brother and a friend who shared their innermost thoughts with each other because we knew it was not easy leading the Israelites to the promised land. Do not let the devil put you in isolation, which is a dangerous spot to be in. Ecclesiastes 4: 9-12 These verses are usually used in terms of marital relationships, but I wanted to look at it on just friendship. The importance of having a Godly community, “one will chase a thousand but two of you will chase ten thousand” We need each other in this life. No man is an island you will not survive. Every country has an ally. Who are the people in your life that you can be completely vulnerable to and help you back up? They clothe you. A man that falls alone is in trouble and that’s where operates, he will play on your isolation and make it hard for you to reach out for help. 

Even Jesus had an inner circle within the disciples Peter, John and James and it is front of them He transfigured (Matthew 17) and showed himself fully to them, just to the three of them, he went up to the mountain to pray with them.  

Build a Godly community, have an inner circle that you can be raw with, about yourself, your walk with God, relationship, your marriage, your fears, your career, your moves, people who will carry you when you need it, people that you pour into and pour into you. Don’t say nobody cares about me. We are living in a generation where people quickly cut out friendships without working out a resolution. Learn to resolve issues before cutting people loose and walk in truth and love. There will be times when people might not be there all the time, we are human. We are not perfect but don’t use that as an excuse not to have people in your life that know the real you. Pray for discernment to know who to trust and open up to. Life is a rollercoaster; relationships are a rollercoaster. Who has your back? Or whose back do you have? Who can call you at 3 am and you will get up and pray with them or vice versa? 3 am might be a stretch because I love my sleep but if I love you, I am there. Take a moment to reflect, look at your life and see the people around you. Check yourself and ask God to show you who is for you, to discern the level of your relationship with people around you. Finally, be the type of friend you want those people to be to you. If you have a great inner circle, appreciate them today. 

This video on adult friendships was insightful.

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